Name Changing... Whoo Hoo!!!

I’ll write about X-mas in my next post (I know, this will be the second time I’ve said that but I want to put up pictures and just haven’t downloaded them to my computer yet.)

For now, I’m going to rant about something that’s been on my mind for a while now. For anybody that may not have read my mini-rant on twitter earlier, I’m finally changing my legal name to my married one. I will still go by Kat Rocha professionally, but legally I am now Kat Finney. Just in time for new years, huh.  Feels good to be doing this actually… ok, getting sappy here but I’m starting to cry just thinking about it.

Why didn’t I do this before… well, honestly, there were two main reasons why.

The first is most of my life I was told that changing your name was “oppressive” and “loosing your independence” etc. “If you take on your husband’s name, you are no longer an individual.” Ack. Bull shit I know (now at least) but that’s what I was taught. There was a lot of bull shit being taught to kids in the 90’s and I was dumb enough to believe a lot of it. Feminism was a great thing but modern day feminists got a LOT of things wrong and I’m going down that hard road of realizing just how much of it is bull.

“But Kat,” some would say, “you don’t have to change your name fully, just use a hyphen. Lots of women do that.” Well, I’d seen women hyphenate their names before (some I’m even related to) and that always seemed very wishy-washy. Hyphenating means that you can’t make up your mind to change or not. Look, either you change your name or you don’t. Doing both just looks stupid and makes you seem indecisive.

The second (which, in all honesty should be the first reason but for editorial reasons I’m listing it second) is too fucked up to voice online. I started to write about it, realized how horrible and monstrous it really was and decided it was best left between me and my therapist.  I will say that divorced parents left me with some really strange views on marriage… views I’m not proud of. And name changing is one of them.

Me, I only ever wanted to get married once. I was going to find the perfect man and get married and live happily ever after. And you know what, Josh is most definitely that perfect man  And Damn It! I’m Josh Finny’s wife! I’m proud of it, so why shouldn’t I take his name?! There is absolutely nothing wrong with it… and it honestly does feel good to call myself Mrs. Finny.

And, on a side note, I have felt more welcome with his family than I have ever with mine. I love my family… but they are “relatives.” where I actually feel like part of a… um… closest word I can find is “clan” with the Finnys, so it just feels right to legally take on the name.

Ok. I think I’m done with that rant now.

Next Time on Now Loading…
See the Pimp Nutcracker in all is bling and glory!
See the Tiki Gundam! :oooga chaka oooga chaka:
Gaze into the majesty that is Kat’s New Computer! “oooooooh, aaaaaaaah”And all the fun that was had on Christmas Eve at the in-laws house.

Will have that up by New Years. 

-Kat

Pimpage of friends

So it's been a while since I updated my blog. Sorry about that. I've been a busy elf making toys and things for people for xmas. No joke. I'll post pictures here in a day or two.

But for now I'd like to take the opportunity to pimp the projects of some of our friends who I seriously think deserve the attention.


1) Johnathan Sharp. Now for those of you who may not be familiar with the name Johnathan Sharp, he is a big deal in the Industrial Music scene. With projects like New Mind and Bio-Tek, JS has been at the forefront on this music movement. He is currently working for the BBC doing soundtrack work and has had his music appear in motion pictures (such as Bad Santa). He has also been kind enough offer his talents for an upcoming (hopefully) soundtrack for Titanium Rain.
I ask you, dear readers to take a moment of your time and check out one of Mr. Sharps latest music projects entitle Barking at Butterflies. You can find this project on iTunes as well as Last.fm.

2)Being so moved by the victory of President Elect: Barak Obama, Charlito of Indie Spinner Rack has gotten together with his brother and a friend of theirs to create Obama: The Card Game. If you like Obama (or even if you don't) I ask that you go check it out and give it a try. As you can see by the artwork below, they put a LOT of time and effort into it. ObamaCardGame.com

Happy Holidays!

-Kat

I’m fucking hot!

Yep, I finally have some grown-up, womanly clothing. :) Josh took me cloths shopping for x-mas and I have a whole new wardrobe of goodies to show off “what my mother gave me.” For those who may not have met me in person, most of my clothing before consisted of t-shirts and normal, everyday pants. Now, I’ve got some nice shirts w/ “soda” neck lines (holy crap I have cleavage!) and some nice, tight jean that ride my hips instead of hug my waist.

For any females reading this, you may be saying to yourselves “this is new and exciting? I’ve been dressing that way since high school.” Well, for me it’s way new. I never thought I’d be thin enough to wear hip-hugging pants or attractive enough to warrant a nice top. But Josh put his foot down and said “my woman is going to dress like a woman, not a 10yr old boy god damn it!” And I LOVE IT!!! I should have done this a long time ago… just was too scared to. Like I wasn’t allowed to wear clothing like this… which is stupid.

Silly, I know. There are a lot of things that I’m starting to do that I was just too scared to do before. Creepy, enough, I’ve been spending time trying to find a hand bag for everyday use. It’s not a purse. I don’t like purses. It’s a hand bag. :P and I think I found the perfect one.

My friend, Deseri is going to take me shoe shopping soon too. I have absolutely no nice shoes. Just tennis shoes and combat boots. Absolutely nothing else.

Ok, so, that’s the end of my “girly” rant there. I just had to get that out. Promise I won’t do that too much… I was just really excited by how good I look in these clothes.

Looking forward to getting home today. Josh and I are hard at work making presents for his side of the family. I can’t say what they are here because I’ll give it away but I will be posting pictures soon. I’m also looking forward to getting back to work on other art projects. Feels good to finally be doing a good job and know it. I’ve been slacking off for so long I forgot what a good job feels like. That’s another bad habit I gotta break, slacking off. If I don’t I’ll never be a professional artist and be able to quit the day job.

Hopefully new artwork will be posted soon. Had to put things on hold.

-Kat